Get Dressed with an Attitude of Gratitude 

Regina Gershman

Friends invite you over for a dinner party. They spend a couple days prior to the evening figuring out what to cook, and then go to the grocery store to pick up all the necessities, clean up and beautify the house, polish the wine glasses, and then slave away in the kitchen for three hours before you even walk in the door. Think about all the time and money that’s gone into this evening even before you ring the doorbell. Your hostess gift can’t begin to match the preparation. Make your host happy they’ve invited you when they open the door and see you looking sparkly and vibrant.

Kick it up a notch

We dress up for so many different aspects of life; work, church, dates, holidays, weddings, and so forth. You’re just going over to a friend’s house for dinner. It could be casual, right? I know it’s tempting to slack off, but showing up dressed well is a way to show your host how appreciative you are for the invite. They will be participating in kitchen Olympics prior to you showing up. When you sit down to the well-dressed table be the well-dressed guest.

Special night, special pieces

Time to get in your closet and pull out those nice pieces that you save for special events, because this night is one of them. Leave the work bag at home and pull out one of your smaller evening bags. Do you have a pretty shawl you’re saving for special events? Here is the opportunity. Accessories can be super romantic in layers of pearls or dazzling chandelier earrings. Or go for drama with a large colorful statement necklace and bangles layered on your wrist.

Looking casually chic

If you’re opting to wear jeans, make sure you’re wearing dressy jeans and not your Saturday-running-errands jeans. Glam them up with a printed flowy top or a colorful softly structured jacket over a dressy tee. The more simple the jean outfit, the more accessories you need to get a going-out look. Add long beaded or chain necklaces.

Wardrobe transforming

If you’re coming from work, there are ways to switch out a few pieces so as not to look like those proposal revisions are still on your mind. A suit will look too formal and restricted so remove your suit jacket and instead pair your bottom with a soft cashmere sweater in a bright or bold color. Accessorize with a pretty print scarf, and some beautiful earrings. Another way to get festive is to simply switch out your shoes. Nothing looks duller than your comfortable and conservative work shoes. Wear one of your favorite printed flats or a pair of dress up heels that you rarely get to wear.

Hosting the event

As the host of a dinner party, one thing on your “to do” list is to make sure you’re dressed comfortably. Most likely you’ll be running around making sure everyone’s drinks are full, the hors d'oeuvre tray has been replenished and guests are happy. A comfortable shoe is a must, but don’t even think of wearing slippers, crocs or any other type of kick around shoe.

You’re entertaining and part of your guest’s pleasure is getting to see your house and how you live. If you’re unclear about how you would dress for your own party, try taking cues from your decorating style. If your home is formal and elegant, you will look congruent when at least one of your clothing items is elegant looking. If your style is contemporary and modern, dress in simple pieces but add dramatic jewelry.

Getting together with friends or new acquaintances is a celebration in our fast-paced world. Cherish it in a well-thought out outfit that conveys your gratitude.

Regina Gershman is a member of Association of Image Consultants International.  Her goal is to empower her clients’ appearance, style, behaviour, communication, business and social etiquette, anger-management, adult & teen’s self-esteem.  For more information, please visit: www.reginagershman-imageconsulting.com

Regina can be reached by email: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

or at (780) 901-7065.

Comfy and Frumpy Don’t Have to Go Together

Regina Gershman

Your loved ones love you no matter what, but do they really deserve to see you at your frumpiest? I’m referring to “private” clothes that no one usually sees you in except for your family during primetime TV hours. You know the look: an oversized old college sweatshirt, your stretched out workout pant, and Ugg slippers. It’s not uncommon to save the worst for those that love us the most.

What do we want most?

What do we really want to wear when we get home and want to relax? Most likely it’s comfort and familiarity; clothes that don’t grab our attention, clothes we don’t have to give much thought to. Here’s the good news. We can get that feeling from clothes that are either so worn they are comfy or we can buy new comfy clothes that look good being worn.

Lounging treasures in your closet

A search through your closet may result in discovering some key pieces that could replace the grungy outfits you’re wearing now. Rethink your wardrobe. Consider recycling clothes you’ve worn in other situations into prized outfits you’ll wear at home. Some of your older cashmere sweaters may be looking a little short compared to current styles. But put a long t-shirt underneath them that sticks out at the bottom and that old favorite sweater will look fresh.

Maybe your favorite jeans from last spring aren’t going to be your going out jeans this spring. Think about recycling them into “after 5” at-home jeans especially if they have that oh-so-comfy stretch in them! Add a long cardigan and you’re set.

Repurpose your flirty dresses

Are you a dress person? You may have dresses in your closet that you don’t get to wear very often. They may have revealing necklines that are great for dates but not for daytime. Transform one of those dresses by adding a cardigan to it or add a v-neck pullover sweater that covers the revealing bust line. Slip on some cute flats and you have an updated 50s look that feels just right.

Shopping for new stuff

If you feel like nothing in your closet is worth salvaging, the great news is that lounge-around-the-house clothing doesn’t have to be expensive. We tend to spend money on our work wardrobe trying to impress clients and bosses. Let’s take a small portion of that clothing budget and impress the ones we love the most: our family members. Besides we want our family members to remember us at our best, not our worst. An easy way to get you into a great daytime wardrobe is to shop at low-end retailers. You will be able to find comfortable, fun, and affordable clothing that will allow you to guiltlessly toss those frumpy sweats you’ve been holding onto.

Change it up

This is a fun shopping trip to look forward to. You could bring out a whole other side of your personality with new loungewear. If you tend to wear dark clothes or neutrals at work, buy some bright colors or fun patterns to brighten it up at home. It’s a better transition to go from great looking work clothes to fun and pretty lounge clothes. I promise you, you’ll feel better about yourself.

If your professional outfits consist of stiff or constraining fabrics, find super soft cottons, cashmere blends, or linens to make your skin feel great. Relieve your waist from pantyhose that have been pinching at you all day by slipping into a pant that has a cotton/Lycra blend. Pair it with a v-neck sweater or a cotton hoodie. Taking off your heels at the end of the day can be the best feeling ever. Transfer those sore feet into a cute and comfortable flat that will make your feet purr.

Need help?

If shopping for a new home wardrobe seems to be a drag, or you’re not sure how to transform your older clothing pieces into stylish new outfits, call me! I’d love to help you find comfortable, relaxing, and pretty loungewear.

Regina Gershman is a member of Association of Image Consultants International.  Her goal is to empower her clients’ appearance, style, behaviour, communication, business and social etiquette, anger-management, adult & teen’s self-esteem.  For more information, please visit: www.reginagershman-imageconsulting.com

Regina can be reached by email: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

or at (780) 901-7065.

Show Your Appreciation with a Hostess Gift

Regina Gershman

Trying to figure out an appropriate and thoughtful hostess gift is something that many people struggle with. You could get discouraged when wondering whether or not the gift is enough, just right, over the top, or even necessary. It’s always better to show up with something rather than with nothing. So here are a few suggestions for hostess gifts. You can adjust your gift depending how well you know the person.

You know the host/ess well

• Bring a book that fits with their interests. Is she into gardening? Are they fascinated with Italy? Base this book around a passion or hobby of the host or hostess. Subjects could include pets, places, or poems.

• If you know how much the host loves to cook and bake, bring them the latest kitchen gadget on the market. There are tons of great gifts that you can find at Sur La Table, Williams-Sonoma, or your local favorite kitchen store. Ask the store manager what the latest must-have item is and ask them to gift wrap it for you.

• Bring something you think your host has never tried before. If they love cheese, bring a cheese you’ve enjoyed and pair it with honeycomb or quince paste. Not a cheese lover? Tea, coffee blends or hot chocolate kits from specialty shops can be a hit.

They’re a friend of a friend

• An aromatherapy candle beautifully packaged is always a safe bet, but step it up a notch by personalizing it with an attractive box of matches. You’ll find those in any gift or kitchen store.

• Make a homemade dessert, bread, or dip and present it in a fun or beautiful container that they can reuse. Personalize it by writing down the recipe on card stock paper.

• Bring a great new olive oil or balsamic vinegar that you’ve tasted and loved. Or if you don’t have one in mind, go to a specialty store where you can sample some and narrow it down to your favorite. It’s fun to share things with a host that has a personal story behind it.

Can’t go wrong with these

• Wine is always an option. Pick out a bottle you know something about or ask a wine specialist in an upscale grocery store for their favorite. Attach a note card expressing your appreciation.

• Fresh-cut flowers are always a possibility but they can also be a distraction when the host needs to stop what she’s doing and go digging to find a vase to arrange them in. Opt for a potted plant such as a beautiful orchid or a hydrangea.

Regina Gershman is a member of Association of Image Consultants International.  Her goal is to empower her clients’ appearance, style, behaviour, communication, business and social etiquette, anger-management, adult & teen’s self-esteem.  For more information, please visit: www.reginagershman-imageconsulting.com

Regina can be reached by email: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

or at (780) 901-7065.

Self-Confidence

In order to develop healthy relationships with others we have to first develop a healthy relationship with ourselves.  By doing the hard work of being honest with ourselves, peeling away the layers and seeing who we really are, over time, we can truly begin to accept ourselves.

Why is self-confidence so important to career success? It’s critical to effective performance in the workplace because it is the major source of effectiveness.  If you are assertive, you fully express your opinions and recommendations to others.  Assertiveness is a major aspect of leadership.  If you can’t manage yourself effectively, then you can’t effectively manage others.

Self-confidence is an ongoing process.  It requires developing and reinforcing a positive but realistic belief in your abilities.  In my career and life, confidence in myself has enabled me to achieve everything.  It’s the fuel which fires my curiosity to venture into the unknown.  With self-confidence comes the courage to attempt the impossible knowing that regardless of the outcome, I believed that I had the willingness to make the effort.

Many people mask low self-esteem through displays of arrogance and bravado – which is an insincere show of self-confidence.  People can be arrogant and highly egotistical on the surface but have low self-esteem underneath.  That’s why self-confidence – the belief in your internal abilities – is not the same as self-esteem – the belief in your inner worth.  Knowing us and developing our interpersonal skills are the key steps to building a real sense of self-confidence and self-respect.  I’ve learned that there is no such thing as failure, there’s only outcomes.  I learn something valuable from every situation in life.

How do we develop confidence at work?

We build confidence by solving our own problems, overcoming challenges and dealing with setbacks and failures – in other words, through hard work and perseverance.  Self-confidence is cultivated through what I call an ongoing “success loop”, in which we perform a task, get positive support and feedback for it, receive ongoing coaching and mentoring and then repeat the process over and over again.  Self-confidence is an attitude in which individuals can develop and maintain a positive, yet realistic view of themselves, their actions and reactions.  Self-confident people trust their own abilities.  They have a sense of control in their lives and believe they will accomplish what they wish and plan.

We all know people who lack self-confidence and underachieve; yet many of them have a great deal of ability.  What’s holding them back is paralysis or inability to take calculated risks.

Fear of Failure

Failure is a very subjective and negative word.  Denial comes from fear.  Fear of change and fear of failure are almost interchangeable.  Even thinking about new situations and challenges makes some of us doubt our abilities, our intelligence or our capacity to overcome obstacles that may arise.  However, if our self-worth is strong, fears may still exist, but they no longer have the power to permanently cripple us.  Failure is a just a temporary setback in the learning experience.

Fear of change is a very real phenomenon, and can also be debilitating.  All of us have self-limiting beliefs.  Its part of being human, and when it comes to careers, there are two really big ones: fear of failure, and fear of change.  Fear of change is a reality – know what it feels like.  When I changed my first job, I was terrified made an irreversible mistake.  It takes hard work to change.  Real change requires commitment and a willingness to exit your comfort zone for an extended period of time.  This is probably why people rarely make fundamental transformations of this kind.  Not because the transformation is not possible, but because we lack the commitment and courage required.  If you are serious about change, you must accept that hard work and discipline lie ahead.  But the rewards are worth the effort because as the change develops, you will begin to internalize the new feeling and develop confidence in your new direction.  Confidence is derived from successful outcomes.

Fear of success is the flip side of fear of failure.  Fear of the unknown creates anxiety.  You may wonder if you can live up to the demands and expectations of others.  If you are a private person, you may not want the spotlight.  There are many reasons people are fearful, but there is only one thing that will get rid of fear: face your fears head on.  The quickest way to overcome fear of failure is to take a risk.  It shouldn’t be a big risk but a small one and preferably a calculated one.  What’s the downside? If you fail, you’ll realize that you gave your 100% effort.  If you succeed, you’ll feel a genuine sense of accomplishment and your self-confidence will begin to grow.  The more you know and accept yourself and focus on positive results, the less you worry about what your peers think, the more likely you are to see yourself as an independent free agent who has choices and takes action.  Failure means that we tried something and it didn’t work.  Human beings learn by trial and error, by understanding what doesn’t work, and by continuing to adjust their strategies until they find out what does.  People never fail if they never try to accomplish anything with their lives.  We can’t grow unless we take risks.  Taking risks is about finding the courage to say yes, I can do it.

Finding the Courage

We humans seem to be pretty adaptable species.  We bounce back to our normal state of happiness after critical injury, natural disasters, etc.  But ask virtually anyone you know and if they are honest they will tell you: the effects of a job loss linger long after they return to the work force.  Think of your job or career path like a carousel at an amusement park.  You get on it at the beginning, when it’s barely moving.  At first that is fine because all you’re doing is feeling your way around.  But as you progress at your job, you generate energy and competence and comfort, and the carousel begins to spin faster.  The more experience you get, the faster the carousel goes until one day you realize its spinning pretty fast even though you don’t want to be there and you start to think about jumping off.  But maybe you don’t make the leap because you figure you’ll wait until the opportunity is right.  But the carousel doesn’t slow down, you don’t make a decision and things keep going faster and faster.  The faster the carousal goes, the harder it is to jump off without really hurting you.

More Information

For more information call (780) 901-7065 for personal or online coaching to become an optimist or learn self-confidence and self-esteem.  For super busy people, we feature “fast-track” counselling for workplace issues over the phone.

Internet:  www.reginagershman-imageconsulting.com

Age Defying Style: Fashion Victim or Fashion Victor?

Regina Gershman

Do you know what your fashion options are now that you’re over 40, 50 or beyond? Sometimes it’s easier to know what we don’t want from fashion than it is to know what we do want. No one goes around saying, “I want to look more matronly.” Or, “I’m going for the dowdy look this season.” So how do we find what we want from fashion and the current run of trends while remaining age appropriate? This is a challenge but one to focus on so that your age defying style will remain victorious.

When you’re under twenty, you can wear nearly all trendy items, all at once, all over your body. Not so with mature women. Pile on the flowy tops, the low-riding jeans, the platform shoes and the long scarf wrapped three times around the neck and you’re looking at a fashion victim.

So what are the criteria for dressing age appropriately yet maintaining your great sense of style?

Choose one trend at a time. If you want to know what not to do, think to yourself, “What would Mary-Kate and Ashley do?” and then do the opposite. Mary-Kate and Ashley Olson, child stars of TV’s Full House and currently fashionistas with a clothing line, never meet a trend that doesn’t have three trend friends that want to join the same outfit. This collage approach to wearing multiple trends expires at the age of 24. If you’re 42 or over, best to showcase one trend (two at the most) at a time. If you like mixing masculine and feminine elements (a semi-sheer floral print blouse with a gray pinstriped trouser), leave out the tribal element. If you prefer a modern look, go for architectural shapes in your clothing and add patent shoes or belts while leaving the bohemian pheasant tops alone.

Keep it simple. If you’re going for the tribal trend, a necklace of carved multi-sized strung beads can be a statement necklace and all you need to add is a classic white summer pant and a khaki-colored safari jacket to look completely in style and appropriate. Overdone would be mixing multiple ethnic prints in tops and bottoms and then adding the necklace for extra credit—a no-no.

Hide your underwear. You may see the celebrities in US magazine photos shopping on Rodeo Drive wearing black lacey bras clearly visible under sheer white tops. Or they’re wearing summer dresses with straps falling off their shoulders or deciding not to wear a bra at all. Do not copy this look! Underwear should be where no one can see it. The proper undergarments make the outer garments look their best and shouldn’t be singled out as a fashion accessory. If some of your summer tops need special types of bras, take those tops with you to the lingerie dressing room and don’t leave the department until you’ve got a solution. You’ll enjoy your summer so much more when your undergarments are working with, not against, your outer garments.

Not too tight, just right. There are two things that make a woman look matronly and older. One is wearing shapeless clothes that hide the body; the other is wearing clothes that are way too tight all over. It’s important to fit your clothing to the curves of your body without looking like you’re wrapped in spandex (and leaving nothing to the imagination). Fit is crucial in looking confident and at ease. Jeans should not have their buttons strained or popping out. Short-sleeved t-shirts shouldn’t be binding your biceps. Your bustline shouldn’t be turning a striped pattern into a wavy pattern. The more clothes gracefully follow the lines of your body, the more you look healthy, in shape and not defined by age.

Sometimes the difference between too tight and just right is going up one size. A note to junior department shoppers: you may be able to find accessories in the cheaper junior departments of big chains, but do not buy your clothes there. Junior sizes are for smaller, budding bodies. Women’s sizing accommodates a female body that has matured and developed into an adult. The junior version might be skin tight while the woman’s version will be cut fuller in all the right places. You won’t be sacrificing style for fit when you move into the department that caters to you.

Embrace your youthfulness. Dabbling in trends is a way to add this important element to your look. Your clothes can be classy while adding accessories that give your outfits some fun personality. This season pick up a colorful sandal, a multi-colored crinkled linen scarf, or some colorful bangles. Enjoy all the things that don’t come in sizes but are really fun to wear: a new lipstick color, cute shoes, scarves and shawls, handbags in fun colors. Youthful energy is what makes us feel alive and healthy, sexy and radiant.

Get help pulling your age defying look together. It may take a professional eye to update your look with new trends while staying true to your personal style. A second eye can introduce you to new, creative and fun ways to add the “wow” factor to your fashion choices. Getting your look right while working with me can save you from taking risks on items that you’ll never wear. Plus, you’ll be looking fabulous in no time. Call me and we can set a date to make you the fashion victor of this season and beyond.

Regina Gershman is a member of Association of Image Consultants International.  Her goal is to empower her clients’ appearance, style, behaviour, communication, business and social etiquette, anger-management, adult & teen’s self-esteem.

For more information, please visit: www.reginagershman-imageconsulting.com

Regina can be reached by email: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

or at (780) 901-7065.

What Makes a Great Relationship

I believe the greatest romantic relationships happen when two friends become passionate friends. A successful relationship is about trust and respect and valuing your partner’s contributions.  It is about growing together and sharing new experiences, which creates a formidable bond.  Over time, those shared memories become irreplaceable.  However, we all know that all relationships have their ups and downs.

What happens when one partner is going through tough times?  What if money troubles or other conflicts develop?  You partner needs to solve his/her own issues.  As far as money goes, you have to avoid financial traps, like taking out too big of a mortgage.  That is a stress that relationship doesn’t need. When there is a difference of preferences and a win-win result isn’t possible, try to think about compromise in the sense of who cares about this the most.  It is not necessary to win all the battles – only the ones you care about.  If two people take that approach, it’s amazing how many things really don’t matter a lot in the scheme of things.  However, it takes two to do this tango.

The acid test of a great relationship is two independent individuals who are even stronger as a team.  Long-term relationships are about teamwork.  If they weren’t why bother getting into one? Just stay single.  That way you won’t have to compromise, and you won’t have to work at things.  You won’t get the job and deep satisfaction that comes from sharing and growing together – but life is about choices.  (I’ve made my choice and I’m very happy about it.)  I never forget that my key to a great relationship is to keep things fresh – and have fun together!

Healthier Relationship with Yourself

I think support networks are an essential part of life.  Have you ever noticed how some people are hard to “read” even after two or three meetings? I like to believe I’m pretty honest and open with others.  I think that most other people are that way with most of the people they meet – to a certain degree, of course.  Perhaps people are closed and unreceptive and “opaque” due to shyness or have been badly burned by a former relationship (social or business).  They are just naturally shy or reticent with strangers.  It could be their values don’t include openness, honesty and trust.  If their values don’t include these things, then clearly those values will not be shown to others.  But even more important, it will be hard for them to have a good, open and honest relationship with themselves.

It could be they are not comfortable in their own skin.  A lot of people have trouble being alone.  But self-respect is only half of the equation.  Most important is respect and trust for others.  Empathy adds to those critical elements.  It really helps if someone can put themselves in your shoes.  Empathy allows for better understanding, better dialogue and that ultimately leads to a better relationship.  Empathetic, active listeners will hear and understand our issues better, but that doesn’t require them to buy-in or to our point of view.  In fact, our empathetic mentors often have very different perspectives than ours – that is one of things I value about them.

They listen carefully and respectfully, think broadly, offer insights and then often have a different but valuable take on a subject.

People who know themselves know their values.  They have usually done a fair amount of soul-searching or self-analysis.  They quietly project their values for others to see, and insist that others respect them for having those standards.

Looking for Mentors

Look at the circle of people around – don’t go looking at a celebrity, or the unattainable for inspiration.  Find out what you are passionate about and then find someone who already shares that passion.  I like to think that I am a mentor for my younger brother and when it comes to relationships, what goes around comes around.  Self-esteem or self-worth seems like such an obvious personal trait to possess to everyone who opens his/her eyes to it.

More Information

For more information call (780) 901-7065 for personal or online coaching to become an optimist or learn self-confidence and self-esteem.  For super busy people, we feature “fast-track” counselling for workplace issues over the phone.

Internet:  www.reginagershman-imageconsulting.com

Why is professional appearance so important at work?

You never get a second chance to make a first impression.  Appearance counts all the time – from the job application, interviews, meetings and appointments, right through to every day on the job.  Don’t forget - you represent your company, and your image is that company’s essence.  Your employer’s goal is to have employees project a favourable image; your goal is to represent the employer and yourself in a favourable way.   Your first impression may influence how people will react to the way you look and present yourself in the beginning, even if you look and act differently later on.  The way you look and act at work is critical to your success on the job.

Why do people have to get dressed up in conservative suits to go to work anyway? Why not wear casual clothes?  The answer is that you appear more competent and professional, and you portray confidence, clad in this attire – as opposed to just a t-shirt and jeans.   This means wearing the traditional dark suit and white shirt.  There is no question that we are all being judged on our appearance. To be noticed, recognized and create influence, we have to take the time to make a good impression on others.

Good appearance makes you feel great about yourself, your self-confidence, and your attitude towards life.  You attract a positive energy and you start to notice that people start paying more attention to you.  This makes you feel better about yourself and enables you to project positive inner emotions.

People re-entering the workforce often need some encouragement and reassurance.  Below are great tips for ensuring your professional appearance is at its best.

Business Attire

What do your clothes say about you? Clothes you wear depend a lot on the environment you work in. Take a look at what your colleagues and other people in that environment are wearing, and dress to fit in. A professional appearance is quite important. Look your best and be proud of how you look.  It is very important to dress to enhance your appearance so that the interviewer can concentrate on your qualifications.  For women, the best attire to wear at work is something with solid colours such as a navy, grey or black suit or dress that is knee length with dark shoes or high-heels.  Avoid miniskirts.  Be sure that heels are about 1 ½ - 2 inches high, no stilettos, or open toed shoes that attract too much attention to your feet. You want to be taken seriously.   Avoid flashy jewellery.  Men should wear a classic dark suit – whether it’s navy, grey or black – and a white long sleeved shirt that is cleaned and neatly pressed in case you need to remove your jacket.  Ties must be conservative with no cartoons or sporting events displayed on them.  Socks must match the suit and not show any leg.  Men should wear black leather shoes – oxfords or loafers, but make sure they are polished and in good condition.  Like women, less accessories is the best approach – no earrings and use cologne sparingly, about two to three hours prior.

The key is to buy outfits that are of good quality and classic design for both men and women.  The same rule applies for purchasing shoes.  They are to be comfortable, stylish and polished.  Purchase versatile pieces that can be mixed and matched with your existing work wardrobe.

Grooming

What goes into grooming? It’s the basics for both genders: your hair, nails and teeth. Knowing what hairstyle will look good on you is very important.  The hair should be manageable and not wild.  It should be neatly combed.  Avoid excessive hairspray and ornaments in the hair.  Wild hair will get you attention, but not the attention you want.

Hair should be clean, current and flattering.  It’s often better for men to be clean shaven because excess hair, whether a beard or a pony tail, could be very risky in a conservative workplace.

Nails are to be clean, trimmed and in good condition.  Your hygiene, grooming, posture, smile, tone of voice, hair and nails are very important.  Breath and body odour should be fresh, clean and pleasant.  Teeth are clean, white and the smile is attractive.  Clothing and eyewear are clean and in good condition.  Keep your make-up natural.  Little or no make-up is best.  Do not use too much perfume; remember a lot of people could be allergic to perfume.  Spray it on two to three hours beforehand, so it becomes more subtle.

To increase your chances for success, remember to offer a warm smile, maintain eye contact and offer a firm handshake.  Let the interviewer or client see that you are a person who pays attention to detail.  It’s also very important to arrive at your appointment about fifteen minutes early.  Use the washroom to compose yourself and make sure you are neat and tidy.

Communication

Our looks and behaviour are called nonverbal communication.  They send a powerful message, whether we intend them to or not.  Grooming, the condition of your clothes, your posture, tone of voice, facial expression, hand gestures, how close you stand to the other person, eye contact and body image are all factors/impressions that other people receive from you.

Wellness

Every thought causes chemicals to be released in every cell of the body.  If the thought is positive, then the chemicals released are healthy.  However, if the thought is negative then the chemicals released are unhealthy.  Over a time of negative, stressful thinking, the body will feel disease.  To apply this to your health, when something happens in your body, it is usually a good idea to look at what’s happening in your life.  Symptoms occur in your body to let you know that something is out of balance and needs to be changed.  Drugs can interfere with the balance of our systems.  Caffeine stimulates the central nervous system; it can cause nervousness, irritability and insomnia.  Alcohol depresses the central nervous system.  Sleeping pills depress the central nervous system, respiration, heart rate, blood pressure and temperature.  Diet pills stimulate the central nervous system; delay fatigue, and curb appetite.

Nutrients

Carbohydrates are the major fuel for all of the body’s cells.  Simple carbohydrates are obtained from fruits.  Complex carbohydrates are starches and can be found in vegetables, whole grains, peas and beans.  Proteins are essential for growth and maintenance of body tissues.  If more protein is consumed than what the body can use, the excess is stored as fat.  “Complete” proteins contain the essential amino acids and are found in meat, poultry, cheese, eggs and milk.  “Incomplete” proteins contain only some amino acids and are found in grains, legumes and leafy green vegetables.  Fat is the most concentrated source of energy available to the body.  Saturated fats are solid and are found in animal products, coconuts and avocados.  Polyunsaturated fats are found in corn, soybean, sunflower and safflower oils and in some fish.  Monounsaturated fats are superior and are found in peanut oil, canola oil and avocado.  The essential fatty acids, Omega-3 and Omega-6 cannot be made by the body.  These fats are important for cell membranes, weight loss, cardiovascular and the skin.  Omega-3 is found in some fish, flax and hemp seed oils, green leafy vegetables and soy.  Omega-6 is found in hemp, pumpkin seeds, sesame seeds, evening primrose and borage.

Vitamins regulate metabolism.  Water-soluble vitamins are C and B-complex and need to be taken into the body daily.  Minerals are important for healthy nerve function, the cardiovascular system and formation of blood and bone.  The fourteen minerals are: calcium, chlorine, cobalt, copper, fluorine, iodine, iron, magnesium, manganese, phosphorus, potassium, sodium, sulphur and zinc.  Enzymes are essential for all biochemical reactions in the body.

Since 75% of our total weight is water, water is essential in every function of the body.  Sufficient water helps you stay lean, alert and healthy.  It is important to drink enough water every day.  Warning signs of dehydration include fatigue, loss of appetite, flushed skin and dark urine.

Water-soluble fibres assist with elimination.  Sources are barley, brown rice, corn, legumes, apples, bananas, carrots, prunes, cranberries, seeds and seaweed.  Water-insoluble fibres help eliminate cholesterol; they improve elimination and flush toxins from the system.  Sources are leafy green vegetables, whole grains, unpeeled apples, pears and strawberries.

Fitness

Fitness helps reduce body fat and increase lean muscle.  It even slows down the process of aging by helping the lymph system eliminate toxins.  Fitness also reduces stress; allowing you to be more calm, relaxed and positive and feel more vital, energized, alert and productive.  It helps you sleep better and feel more confident.  It also reduces the risk of heart disease by slowing down the build-up of plaque in the arteries and reducing blood pressure, making the heart stronger and more efficient.  Fitness also reduces the risk of diabetes, by improving the body’s ability to regulate sugar and reduce the risk of osteoporosis which is the occurrence of bone loss.  The great benefit in later life is reduction of back problems, improved circulation and longer life.  Essentially, fitness improves the quality of your life as a whole.

Making an effort to look your best at work will offer many rewards, not the least of which is a boost to your self-confidence. Spend some time each week working on each of these areas until you are certain you have the balance and professional look you are striving for. Each step will bring you closer to the person you really want to be.

Regina Gershman, an Image Consultant a member of the Association of Image Consultants of Canada, has offices in Richmond Hill and downtown Toronto.  She specializes in appearance, behaviour, etiquette, job strategy and interview skills, communication, anger management, adult & teen self-awareness, and other forms of counselling.

Regina can be reached at

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THE BAG LADY SYNDROME

YOUR CHOICE

“NO NAME” OR “GUCCI”

BY Donna Worthington, CFP EPC

Investment Planning Counsel

Certified Financial Planner

BAG LADY SYNDROME

“In a poll, half the women said they fear they will lose all their money

and become destitute in old age.” *¹

Behind the fear:

8.  For every year a woman stays home caring for a child, she must work 5 extra years to recover lost income, pension coverage and career promotion.*³ The average Canadian woman spends 15% of her career out of the paid workforce caring for her children and parents.*⁴ So when it comes to investing in those RRSPs, she needs to be aggressive.  As women tend to be more conservative in their investing, they need to use balanced mutual funds or managed portfolios.  Over 58% of female baby boomers have less than $10,000 saved in some form of retirement saving.*³ Don’t let this be you.

9.  When choosing an employer look at more than salary.  Many employers show their employees how much they are valued through their group benefits plan.  Does your employer have a pension plan or match an RRSP contribution?  Do they have short-term and long-term disability, health benefits and other incentives for you to stay?  In other words, does your employer want to invest in you?

10.  Be Charitable – Start out small. Even $20 a month can make a difference.  When we give to a worthy cause, it makes us feel good.  Have a family meeting and decide on a charity that you can support as a family.  The government encourages charitable gifting by giving us a tax credit.

11.  Women and Entrepreneurship – About 821,000 women are entrepreneurs.*⁶ They employ 1.7 million people and contribute $18 billion to our economy.*⁶ Consider supporting a woman entrepreneur or becoming one yourself.  Did you know the Canadian Youth Business Foundation lends money to women between the ages of 18 and 35 years of age who have a sound business plan.  Do you know a young woman who could use a “hand-up”.

12. Is your estate in order? Over the past many years of being in the financial services profession, I’ve witnessed many sad situations. The proper implementation of a Will, Enduring Power of Attorney and a Personal Directive would have saved a lot of heartache and dollars.  Do Not forget to check your pension plans, insurance policies plans and RRSPs to be sure the right beneficiary is registered.

13.  What about your mortgage? If your mortgage is to be renewed, start looking 4 to 6 months ahead of time.  Consider calling a mortgage broker. Should you choose a fixed rate or variable rate?  A fixed rate gives you peace of mind if you believe interest rates will increase.  A variable rate may offer you more savings, knowing that you can lock in at a later date should interest rates increase.  Before jumping into a faster pay-down schedule, consider your cash flows: other expenses need to be covered.

14.  An emergency fund--Is it necessary? When times are good and employment seems secure, an emergency fund may seem unnecessary, especially if you have a secured line of credit.  However, nowadays, I suggest clients consider the new Tax Free Savings Account (TFSA) once they have maximized their RRSPs.  Put your tax return in the TFSA so it can grow tax free.  But Caution, get professional advice. Other circumstances such as outstanding balances on credit cards may need to be addressed first.

So Ladies, as you see, regardless of your age there are steps you can take to secure your future.  Whether you are single, married, widowed or divorced, chances are that you will live a long time and you want to live comfortably and with dignity.  The time to take action is now!  Seek out the advice of a Professional Financial Planner (one with the Certified Financial Planner designation).  Go to him or her with your lifestyle goals:  where would you like to see yourself in 5, 10, 15, and 20 years from now?  Have your advisor prepare a comprehensive financial plan, one that includes:  goals, net worth, cash flows, retirement planning, insurance planning and estate planning.  The comprehensive financial plan should also include a list of recommendations and dates that all items need to be completed by.  This plan should be reviewed on an annual basis or if significant changes take place in your life that could affect your plan.

The choice is yours:

“No Name” or “Gucci”

Donna Worthington is on the National Board of Directors of the Canadian Institute of Financial Planners.

For Seminars, appointments, or speaking engagements please call 780‑702‑1551.

*¹ Source:  Allianz Life Insurance survey, 2006

*² Source Statistics Canada

*³ National Centre for Women and Retirement Research

*⁴ Womens Institute for a Secured Retirement

*⁵ Bureau of Census

*⁶ RBC Group

Hope! Trust! Integrity! by Linda Osinchuk

Values I personally believe are the basis of true leadership. After nine years experience as a municipal councillor and school board trustee, I am now moving forward to be the next mayor of Strathcona County.

My background of being raised in an agricultural family of eight, working as a registered nurse, and volunteering in my community gave me a strong work ethic and love of people. People, no matter what their culture, ethnicity, sex or age, all have a core set of fundamental values. I have discovered residents of Strathcona County generally – both urban and rural – experience a common thread of ideals. They hope for a safe community to live and raise their families. They need to trust that their local government is fiscally responsible and transparent in their actions. They value and expect integrity from their elected officials who create policies and laws that affect their civic life. This common set of values bind us together despite any differences – a running thread of hope that makes our democratic work so important and rewarding.

I realize the risks of speaking this way. The time is now. The time is right to try a new kind of politics. One that can examine and build upon those shared understandings that pull us together as Strathcona County residents!

How do we together begin the process of changing our politics to make it exciting, forward thinking and positive for all?  I believe it will take someone who has strong relationship building and bridging abilities. Someone who communicates with a passionate and proud voice. Someone who listens with an empathetic ear and isn’t fearful of standing up for the right reasons. There is also a need for someone who will empower people to work together and have democratic conversation around our collective future. A vision of a community that is exciting, dynamic and caring. A community we are proud to call our home! I believe I am that individual.

Some of the areas I have championed, and strongly believe in, are a balanced economic system where taxes are kept as low as possible and fiscal responsibility is a must when dealing with taxpayers dollars. But just as important, this economic system needs to be paralleled with a caring approach that speaks to the needs of people. One cannot overpower or take priority over the other. There is a need for “caring economics.” The greatest problems of our times in recent history – poverty, inequality, war terrorism and environmental degradation – can be traced to flawed economic systems that fail to value and support the most essential human work: caring for people and the planet. We need to seek and encourage a system both politically and corporately that meets our material and spiritual needs. When I reference spiritual this does not reflect religion. Whichever belief, be it Catholic, Buddhism, Hindu, Protestant, Anglican or any of the many other religions, we must respect these choices that people embrace because without a belief in a bigger world, one that is humanity based, there will be no hope. That is what spiritual is. It is a belief in hope for the future, for healthy, happy times – the hope that their community is taken care of by the leaders who are elected to do so.

Part of this caring community involves service clubs, youth and senior organizations and volunteers in general. Rotary is one such organization that I have the honour and privilege to be a member of. The motto “Service Above Self” speaks for itself. This great group of men and women do humanitarian work around the world. Much local work is done to be that helping hand – from building homes for Habitat for Humanity, providing warm clothing and food for the more unfortunate, to encouraging fellowship and a sense of belonging for other Rotarians and many others in the community. The four way test is the constitution Rotary lives by. It is as follows:

“Is it the Truth?”

“Is it Fair to all concerned?”

“Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?”

“Will it be Beneficial to all concerned?”

As past president of the Sherwood Park Rotary Club, I truly believe that these core values should be maintained throughout ones work, play and life in general.

Family is very important to me. As I mentioned earlier, I was raised as a Saskatchewan farm girl with a Ukrainian cultural background. Living with four brothers and three sisters provided a great appreciation for patience, hard work and unconditional love. I am married for 31 years to Jim and have five wonderful children – my new son-in law, Jorge, Erin, age 27, Adam age 24, Evan age 20, Alix age 18. Sherwood Park has been our home for 20 years. We are among many other families who choose Strathcona County for their home. I believe families are the heart of this community. With an increased number of older adults over 55, young adults and students, we have a dynamic and safe community that provides a great quality of life.

I believe we need to fight for our hospital and underground transmission lines. It is our job to stand up for our residents and their needs. The population is over 87,000 people and we deserve a facility that provides community health care, obstetrics, orthopaedics, internal medicine and senior care. Our heartland is the industrial center of the province and we deserve the peace of mind that if an industrial accident occurs there is a health facility nearby. It is time to stand up and fight for our right to 24-hour health care. The 500 kV transmission lines that are proposed through our community needs to be placed underground. Again, it comes down to caring about people and their health needs. I am a believer in people. I am a believer in working hard for what is right. I am a believer that Strathcona County is the greatest community in the world to play, work and call home. I am a believer in hope!

Written by Linda Osinchuk

The Famous Five by Iris Evans

Louise McKinney once said “The purpose of a woman’s life is just the same as the purpose of a man’s life: that she may make the best possible contribution to her generation.”  Without doubt, the women we now call the “Famous Five” did just that and because of their actions, women today can do the same – we can live up to our potential and make the best possible contribution to our generation.

We all owe a lot to the Famous Five – the feminist movement of Nellie McClung’s generation endorsed a woman’s right to work and to be paid equally for it.  Even given this, they embraced the homemaking role.  They understood the important contribution that homemakers made to society.

They sought to achieve in society what they presumed they had already achieved in their own households: to make and enforce rules of good conduct and to clean it up.  Nellie McClung once said “Women have cleaned up things since time began…and if women get into politics there will be cleaning up of pigeon holes and forgotten corners in which the dust of years has fallen.”  While today, some view the stay-at-home mom as traditional and opposing the feminist movement, the Famous Five saw value in all the roles women play.

My motivation in many ways has been prompted by parents that gave me confidence that I could be whatever I aspired to be – my mother never accepted less than my best effort, and my father expected equivalent performance between his daughters and his sons.  For that, I am deeply grateful.  I have also been blessed with brilliant and loyal team members. They’ve played a central role in any achievements. I have considered them family one and all – daughters and stars in their own right.

My Famous Five list includes Margaret Bateman.  Bright, results-oriented, and above all, kind and caring are words that come to mind when I think of Margaret.  Throughout her professional career Margaret has had the ability to manage difficult situations and to do it all with grace.  She has the ability to teach and motivate those around her.  Margaret has unique ability to connect with people and she lets them shine while she leads from behind.  She solves problems by first identifying “What question are we trying to answer?”

Margaret Bateman’s lasting legacy will include her mentorship to other women.  The way she conducts herself, the way she cares for others, the way she supportively leads, is something you can’t help but pick up on when you are in her presence.

I read an article where Margaret was being interviewed about the Edmonton Regional Airports Authority and the interviewer asked her “In 100 years, will you warrant your own chapter in the history books, a footnote to great events, or a single Google hit?”  Her reply, “Definitely a single Google hit and that would be fine with me.  I’m more of a watcher of human events.”  Margaret has won many awards and championed some of the best policy decisions.  I believe she will have her own chapter in the history books and will leave a lasting legacy.

The next woman on my list is Colleen Klein.  Colleen makes my list for a number of reasons, not the least of which is her work as a tireless and passionate advocate for children and for the vulnerable.  Most know Colleen in her role as wife to former Premier Ralph Klein.  What many may not know is that she survived a remarkable life marked with tragedy and discrimination, including an earlier marriage in which she was battered, and suffered the loss of a brother in a drunk-driving accident.  Some might say she was an underdog but Colleen has been a motivator.  The tragic events in her life turned her into a fighter determined to do what she can to help the least powerful in society.  Colleen lobbied tirelessly, if quietly, among her husband’s colleagues – including myself.  She used her position in society to help those less fortunate, to help the most vulnerable children in the province – she has a special place in the spirits of Aboriginal people.

Her work has improved the lives of countless children and families.  Colleen has said “When you are working with children, you park your ego and political colours at the door and get to work.”  This no-nonsense attitude and determination to help others, despite the challenges she has encountered in her life, puts her firmly on my Famous Five list.

Also on my list is Jan Reimer, a former mayor whose devotion and commitment to women’s issues is unmatched in the province.  In her role as the provincial coordinator for the Alberta Council of Women’s Shelters, Jan has made huge progress providing support for 41 member shelters by overseeing the development of educational tools, resource materials, training seminars, research and public awareness.  In turn, these women’s shelters provide the support mechanisms that empower women and their children to escape abusive relationships.  To this work Jan has brought government experience, and under her leadership, concerns like core funding for shelters and wage parity for shelter workers have been addressed and the organization has become recognized as an expert authority on family violence.

In 2004, she was honoured as an Edmontonian of the Century and in 2006 she was recognized by Governor-General Michaëlle Jean with the Governor General’s Award in Commemoration of the Persons Case for her contributions to women’s equality.  Jan Reimer is an Edmonton woman making a difference – I’ve admired her – I’ve trusted her implicitly.  Her actions inspire us all to do more.

Next on my Famous Five list is Linda Stainton.  For more than 25 years, Linda has been an advocate for developing and using innovative strategies that meet the developmental and educational needs of children with disabilities.  Her young son was born prematurely and she taught herself to be his best ally.  She expanded her talents and her work has led to significant contributions including valuable support to Alberta’s Family Support for Children with Disabilities Act, passed in 2004.  She has worked hard to help create a barrier-free and inclusive environment for children with disabilities in the classroom.

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that Albertans with disabilities have made immense contributions to our culture, our economy and our social fabric.  These now-contributing adults got a solid start as children because of Linda’s work.  When we take the time to invest in our own people, the rewards are always greater than we could have imagined.  Linda has taught us that we just need to open our eyes a little wider so that we can see not the limitations of the disabled but instead their tremendous potential.  When Linda looks at you with her bright, inquisitive blue eyes, she wants truth and commitment – she is rarely denied.

The final woman on my list of Famous Five is Dr. Ruth Taylor.  Ruth and her husband share a passion for libraries and a strong belief that the resources in them should be available as widely as possible.  Supporting this belief, they donated $25 million to create a new library at the University of Calgary.

Ruth has always been committed to education.  In the course of her career, she has worked as a teacher, school counsellor and vice-principal.  While raising two boys, she earned a doctorate in education from the University of Alberta, where she wrote a dissertation on home education.  She also holds a master’s degree in education from San Diego State University, and a bachelor of education degree from the University of Alberta, with a major in fine arts.  She has worked on the Alberta Mental Health Board and as a consultant for Alberta Children’s Services in the area of resources for children with disabilities.  During her time consulting at Children Service’s, Ruth was instrumental in creating the Provincial Parent Advisory Committee and acted as co-chair.

Her first chosen child has cerebral palsy and through Ruth’s relentless support, her son Scott has achieved remarkable independence.  Ruth has always understood that our children, our youth are Alberta’s true advantage.  She has always understood that it is with the children that our future lies and it is they who will determine the shape of things to come.

I am thankful for women like Ruth and Linda who have treated our children like a precious resource, and whose compassion enabled Alberta to create a better law supporting families with children with disabilities.

If you were picking your Famous Five, who would you choose?  Certainly there are many others to consider.  Women like Lois Hole, our former Lieutenant-Governor; or Anne McLellan, former Deputy Prime Minister; or women like Lynda Steele who promotes literacy and raises awareness about domestic violence and fundraises for cancer research; or perhaps Dr. Margaret Ann Armour – such an inspired and admired academic.

Women who make a difference are not just the women who receive awards and are well known.  And while they may not become famous, mothers make a tremendous contribution and make an undeniable difference. Many of these same women are also making a difference in the workplace, even in non-traditional work places.

Some might wonder about the experiences in my life that have helped me grow as an individual, a politician and a woman.

Keep learning – our job is to discover our gifts – learn who we are and what we can best accomplish – to use that knowledge in pursuit of a life well lived – a life that matters.  Keep laughing – stand frontal nudity before a mirror!  Keep loving – no matter how often you may be disappointed, love can bloom again.

Will you be disappointed if you aren’t the one that matters to the masses – rather to just a select few?  Some will move mountains and yes, some will be a paragraph or two in a history book one day.

They named the high school in Stavely after my father, after he died and years later – when the children from that town went to school in Claresholm – the school was torn down.  My dad would’ve been the first to agree. He will not be remembered by a plaque, but in the hearts of all he taught and touched.  My mother wept in the pain of her blindness and asked me “What good am I?  Why can’t I die now?”  I held her and told her what I’m telling you.  We have a privilege – perhaps even a duty – to honour the life we were blessed with, to live it all to the fullest.  We may charter a course that is interrupted by many less perfect events but in the end we must love; we must give what we can to others.  In so doing we will receive more than we have ever given.

God bless and thank you.